Another Example of Our Screwed-Up Laws

[TheStatutoryApe]

and has to pay money to the person who made him a victim.

He was not victimized by his child.

The issue is that "if you consider a man ill equipped to handle" sex, you should consider him ill equipped for just everything else. This is the hypocrisy. We consider the minor ill equipped to handle sex, but if he happens to commit a felony we can send him to be tried in an adult court of law. So the poor guy is ill equipped to handle sex consequences, but it is very well equipped to be treated as an adult when we want to **** him and try him as a fully responsible adult.

I am unsure how it works out there but here it is only a possibility that a minor can be tried as an adult. They are not automatically tried as an adult simply because they commit a felony. They are most often tried as a juvenile and usually are only tried as an adult for serious crimes like murder.

 

[DanP]

I am unsure how it works out there but here it is only a possibility that a minor can be tried as an adult. They are not automatically tried as an adult simply because they commit a felony. They are most often tried as a juvenile and usually are only tried as an adult for serious crimes like murder.

It is on the case by case basis here as well.

 

[Char. Limit]

You're all too trusting. How do you know that this mother, already proven to be irresponsible, will spend the money that he is giving her on the child? Answer: we don't.

So I'm not saying his child victimized him, Statutory. I'm saying we can't trust the father's (statutory) rapist.

 

[DanP]

You're all too trusting. How do you know that this mother, already proven to be irresponsible, will spend the money that he is giving her on the child? Answer: we don't.

1. Mother is not proven to be irresponsible. This term has a very precise legal understanding.

2. Should / Would / Could is of no concern here. Good faith is assumed.

 

[Char. Limit]

Really? Committing a felony is not proof of irresponsibility? And good faith should be assumed in a forum argument, not here! Why should I assume good faith of a felon?

 

[DanP]

Really? Committing a felony is not proof of irresponsibility? And good faith should be assumed in a forum argument, not here! Why should I assume good faith of a felon?

It is not proof of irresponsibility at all . Check the meaning of the word.

 

[Hepth]

He should just sue her for cost of child support as damages from the crime committed against him :)

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

You're all too trusting. How do you know that this mother, already proven to be irresponsible, will spend the money that he is giving her on the child? Answer: we don't.

So I'm not saying his child victimized him, Statutory. I'm saying we can't trust the father's (statutory) rapist.

She has custody of the child to the money goes to her as custodian. If she fails to use the money to support the child then he can sue her for the money on behalf of their child. If he wins he will also likely receive custody. From the details of the stories linked I think it most likely that his family will get custody anyway.

He should just sue her for cost of child support as damages from the crime committed against him :)

Yes. Go into court and refer to support for your child as "damages" and see how well that goes over.

 

[zoobyshoe]

You've articulated your point very well (perhaps better than I've done for mine), Zoob.

I realize changing laws is dangerous. My main concern is people not being held accountable for their actions. I can see a potential exploit; what if this fifteen year old decides to go around having kids under the protection of this law? What is to stop him from impregnating women if there are no consequences for his behavior?

Not every minor who engages in sexual intercourse is innocent and/or being taken advantage of. I believe there needs to be some form of responsibility on his part for the child. It cannot all fall on the mother.

By way of response I need only repeat myself:

"To deter people from taking sexual advantage of children the law has set an age of legal consent. People simply don't mature emotionally and intellectually at the same rate so this ends up being somewhat arbitrary, but as we consider younger and younger children it's clear there does have to be a law. Once that age is set it has to be stuck to. Making an exception for a 15 year old is as good as making an exception for a 10 year old, and you pretty much end up with no law."

By ordering this kid to pay child support this judge has set a precedent that grossly muddies the water and undercuts the law against statuory rape. He has said that the minor, IS, in fact responsible when he has sex with someone who's not a minor. If he is responsible, then how has the 19 year old committed any crime?? If he is responsible then her attorney should be able to have the charges against her thrown out. And if he does, then the age of legal consent will, de facto, have been pushed back to 15. If he does, anyone charged with statutory rape of anyone ages 15-17 can have the charges thrown out citing this precedent.

Anyone here who believes the kid should be held responsible is saying the same thing: 'the age of legal consent is too high; 15 year olds know what they're doing. This 19 year old girl committed no crime.'

It's fine if you want to lobby to get the age pushed back, but the law as it is now, exonerates the boy of any responsibility, and a judge, of all people, should not be making decisions that undercut a clear law.

It would all have been fine if the judge had merely given the boys parents a stern lecture with the strong recommendation that they require him to contribute $50 a month to child support to teach him responsibility. Legally requiring him to do it suddenly upsets the whole law.

 

[Averagesupernova]

Zooby and I seem to have been in agreement throughout this whole thread. Zooby's logic is correct in that requiring a minor to pay child support through the mother of his child that is not a minor implies that the adult in the scenario is not guilty of a crime. I really don't know what else to say. I don't see a flaw in this logic.

 

[Dembadon]

Zooby and I seem to have been in agreement throughout this whole thread. Zooby's logic is correct in that requiring a minor to pay child support through the mother of his child that is not a minor implies that the adult in the scenario is not guilty of a crime. I really don't know what else to say. I don't see a flaw in this logic.

It is not Zooby's logic with which I am in disagreement. It is the law itself which I find to be unsatisfactory. Since, as Zooby has pointed out, laws should not be undermined, I would favor an amendment.

 

[Char. Limit]

And zoobyshoe articulates my ideas far better than I could myself.

Dembadon, an amendment is all well and good (or maybe not, depending on your point of view), but we should consider the law as it currently is.

 

[NeoDevin]

As much as I think that the age of consent in the states should be lowered, I feel the need to point out that even in (most) countries with an age of consent of 15 or lower, what she did was still a crime. As a babysitter, she was in a position of authority over the boy.

 

[DanP]

As a babysitter, she was in a position of authority over the boy.

Position of authority is legally defined and not arbitrary. ruling in previous cases is also important in many legislations.

 

[NeoDevin]

Position of authority is legally defined and not arbitrary. ruling in previous cases is also important in many legislations.

Yes, but almost universally it includes (temporary) caregivers/guardians.

 

[Averagesupernova]

As much as I think that the age of consent in the states should be lowered, I feel the need to point out that even in (most) countries with an age of consent of 15 or lower, what she did was still a crime. As a babysitter, she was in a position of authority over the boy.

So you are saying that as a baby sitter it was not appropriate, but you feel the age of consent should be lowered? Not to sound like an ***, but that is about the stupidest thing I have ever heard here on PF. Ok for someone who needs a babysitter to father a child legally and be held responsible. Nice.

 

[MotoH]

I wouldn't mind sleeping with my baby sitters.

 

[cronxeh]

I wouldn't mind sleeping with my baby sitters.

You would have to be at least 13

 

[Pinu7]

Why is custody given to a woman who is a pedophile in the first place? Victims of statutory rape should never have to pay child support since the partner should not have any right to the child.

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

It's fine if you want to lobby to get the age pushed back, but the law as it is now, exonerates the boy of any responsibility, and a judge, of all people, should not be making decisions that undercut a clear law.

Go tell that to all of the judges in juvenile court who by your logic undercut clear laws over and over again on a daily basis by holding minors responsible for their actions even though they are legally incapable of making responsible decisions.

As well would you like to tell his child that he is a bastard in perpetuity since according to you the law should not recognize who his father is?

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

Why is custody given to a woman who is a pedophile in the first place? Victims of statutory rape should never have to pay child support since the partner should not have any right to the child.

Well it was sort of in her uterus you know. And then paternity had to be established and a court has to decide who will get the child. And she has apparently yet to be convicted of statutory rape so legally she has no marks against her as of yet.

Also you might look up the term pedophile.

 

[NeoDevin]

So you are saying that as a baby sitter it was not appropriate, but you feel the age of consent should be lowered? Not to sound like an ***, but that is about the stupidest thing I have ever heard here on PF. Ok for someone who needs a babysitter to father a child legally and be held responsible. Nice.

Way to make a coherent argument for your view!

I feel the age of consent should be lowered, yes. I also believe the restrictions on this for people who are in a position of authority over the minor should be instituted. I think the law here in Canada (where I am) is reasonable. Age of consent is 16, with a "less than 5 years difference" exception for 14 and 15 year olds. If the adult is in a position of authority, the age is instead 18.

 

[Averagesupernova]

The mother being able to keep child that was carried in her uterous and put there by illegal means has no more right to keep that child than I would have a right to keep money that was in my bank account but was obtained and put there by illegal means.

 

[DanP]

The mother being able to keep child that was carried in her uterous and put there by illegal means has no more right to keep that child than I would have a right to keep money that was in my bank account but was obtained and put there by illegal means.

That's for a court of law to decide. Is not a matter of opinion.