Is this true or this is a stupid question?

[flyingpig]

Do many men just look for looks in women first and then see if they have anything else in common? Is it the same for women?

What about YOU?

 

[Pengwuino]

Most more like it. Although I think half the time most guys don't care if they have anything in common with the girl, unless that "in common" involves kinky outfits and whips. hawt.

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

The first thing that anyone who isn't visually impaired will notice about anyone else is the way they look. It is the initial thing that attracts us to people.

 

[lisab]

As a female, I can tell you what you get if your online dating site does not have a photo.

Crickets.

 

[Topher925]

Picture's worth 1,000 words.

 

[mcknia07]

I, as a female, think that looks play a small role, but mostly it's the personality and connection I have with the man that means the most.

 

[Topher925]

So what exactly is "connection"?

 

[mcknia07]

A spark, the it factor

 

[Topher925]

The "it factor"? I can see we're just going to go in circles here.

 

[lisab]

The "it factor"? I can see we're just going to go in circles here.

That could be a sign that there is a connection.

 

[rootX]

First if they love dogs and then looks .

 

[Constantinos]

I think looks is more than external appearance.

If I saw a woman with the body of a model but couldn't walk straight, or her hands would shake while talking, she wouldn't really "look" good to me and maybe most men.

If I saw a woman with the body of a model and her every move was as elegant as a dancer's and when she started to talk she would talk about conspiracy theories or something completely crazy like alien abductions or about trivial things like the next top model/some soap opera, she would not "look" good to me either and maybe most (I want to believe) men.

So "good looks" is not only external beauty, but a combination of factors, namely physical appearance, movement and immediate character traits. These are also the first things to be noticed by people and it should go for both men and women. At first, this is the only information you have about someone.

 

[256bits]

If I saw a woman with the body of a model but couldn't walk straight, or her hands would shake while talking, she wouldn't really "look" good to me and maybe most men.

If I saw a woman with the body of a model and her every move was as elegant as a dancer's and when she started to talk she would talk about conspiracy theories or something completely crazy like alien abductions or about trivial things like the next top model/some soap opera, she would not "look" good to me either and maybe most (I want to believe) men.

QUOTE]

I would wonder if the first lady would need a ride home from the bar.
I would ask the second lady if she could introduce me to the first lady.

 

[Ivan92]

I say attraction has to be there, however it is not everything. If you see an attractive woman and find out that she has a hobby or does something that is also in your interest obviously one would be tempted to talk to her and get to know her more.

 

[jhae2.718]

If we're talking about attraction, it's usually about $\frac{GMm}{r^2}$.

 

[KingNothing]

If we're talking about attraction, it's usually about $\frac{GMm}{r^2}$.

Are you attracted to massive women?

 

[jhae2.718]

Hint: all my posts to this subforum are me being a smart-***.

 

[ahsanxr]

Are you attracted to massive women?

He would actually be more repelled by massive women, since he forget the negative sign.

 

[flyingpig]

Oh you guys...

 

[Dembadon]

He would actually be more repelled by massive women, since he forget the negative sign.

 

[DaveC426913]

A guy (or gal) who wants to see a pic of a girl (or guy) does not automatically mean that looks is all they're interested in, or even the primary thing.

There is a 'threshold' factor : "I don't need a woman who is gorgeous, but she does have to reach an acceptable threshold, or I simply won't be interested in finding out what she's like." Or more simply: "What am I about to get myself into?"

Consider an analogy with job resumes: any manager who has ever reviewed a pile of resumes for a job applicant has found typos and ruled that person out. Typos are a way of winnowing the pile and increasing your chances of landing a winner. Would you say that a manager who used this strategy is only interested in an applicant with excellent diction? Would you say that excellent diction is even the manager's primary interest? Would you accuse this manager of being shallow in his decision process?

 

[TylerH]

It kinda depends. For me, I'll only aggressively pursue a relationship if they're physically attractive, and wait until later to see if we're compatible. But, sometimes, after getting to know a girl pretty well, if we have exceptionally compatible personalities, it's almost as if they start to seem more physically attractive than they originally did. That said, one can usually tell a lot about a girls personality just through observation. All that I've ever been interested in, I've had a class with. It's hard not to get a good idea of what someone is like when you spend 1.5 hours with them everyday.

I'm sure there's a limit to the personality's effect on perceived attractiveness. If they're just plain nasty, I'm sure personality wouldn't change much.

 

[Char. Limit]

Are you attracted to massive women?

Hey, it's better than being attracted to massless women.