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How would you feel if you're 21 and your parents still treat you like you're their 5 year old baby?
spaghetti3451 said:How would you feel if you're 21 and your parents still treat you like you're their 5 year old baby?
Not fair. I'm 19 and need permission for everything. I spend every day waiting to be told what I'm allowed to do.Including doing maths and physics. I am forbidden about talking about star wars.spaghetti3451 said:How would you feel if you're 21 and your parents still treat you like you're their 5 year old baby?
Choppy said:Hmmm...
What's not to love?
- I would get to have naps in the middle of the afternoon
- I could watch cartoons on Saturday mornings
- Mom would make me breakfast, lunch, and supper
- I wouldn't have to clean the house - except for maybe for keeping my room tidy
- I wouldn't have to follow a schedule
- Zero stress
spaghetti3451 said:Well, treating me like I'm still a little child makes me lose my manhood. I begin to think I'm inadequate to live independently. I can live independently, though.
BL4CKB0X97 said:I'm 19 and need permission for everything. I spend every day waiting to be told what I'm allowed to do.Including doing maths and physics. I am forbidden about talking about star wars.
spaghetti3451 said:Well, treating me like I'm still a little child makes me lose my manhood. I begin to think I'm inadequate to live independently. I can live independently, though.
BL4CKB0X97 said:Not fair. I'm 19 and need permission for everything. I spend every day waiting to be told what I'm allowed to do.Including doing maths and physics. I am forbidden about talking about star wars.
Yeah, I also didn't like the way I felt when I was an adult, living with my parents. Fortunately, there was an easy solution.spaghetti3451 said:Well, treating me like I'm still a little child makes me lose my manhood. I begin to think I'm inadequate to live independently.
spaghetti3451 said:Well, treating me like I'm still a little child makes me lose my manhood...
If you're still living under your parents' roof, which seems to be the case, they're the ones who make the rules, whether or not you're 21. There's a big difference between "can live independently" and "are living independently."spaghetti3451 said:Well, treating me like I'm still a little child makes me lose my manhood. I begin to think I'm inadequate to live independently. I can live independently, though.
Too geeky.Drakkith said:What exactly do they do to you that makes you feel inadequate?
That's sounds pretty unfortunate.Do your parents have something against star wars?
Overprotective. The best parents you have though, they seem to be relaxing now. After I said when I finish my chemo I'm moving out mum's coming up with reasons I shouldn't. Including stuff like we'll get a dog! And occasionally "do what you want" which has happen only a few times in recorded history.Choppy said:That sounds horrible. Why do you suppose that is?
Prove yourself then. The only way forward.spaghetti3451 said:Well, treating me like I'm still a little child makes me lose my manhood. I begin to think I'm inadequate to live independently. I can live independently, though.
This. I'm only 25 but I've learned this by watching my grandma and how she treats my mother.StatGuy2000 said:To the OP,
Any parent who genuinely loves and cares about their children will always think of them as their child, no matter how old they become. I'm 41 years old and my parents (particularly my mother) still worry about me. And I wouldn't have it any other way.
If you become a parent yourself one day, I suspect you'll understand.
+1dipole said:Personally I find it somewhat pathetic that someone who is 21 is still complaining about their parents. If they bother you so much, move out and reduce contact with them. Simple.
dipole said:Personally I find it somewhat pathetic that someone who is 21 is still complaining about their parents. If they bother you so much, move out and reduce contact with them. Simple.
spaghetti3451 said:How would you feel if you're 21 and your parents still treat you like you're their 5 year old baby?
QuantumQuest said:How would you feel if you were 21 having no parents? Would it be better? I can tell you if you want to - even now at my 50 and having my own family. Parents are always parents. Pay respect to them. In the end, if you want to be independent then so be it. But don't forget your parents.
What part of that is an American thing?micromass said:Not everybody lives in America.
russ_watters said:What part of that is an American thing?
I'm aware, but I didn't see a specific part of the post that triggered a recognition of such a difference. Hopefully @micromass wasn't saying that people outside of the US take longer to grow-up than Americans!Student100 said:Different cultures practice different things...
As are some areas of the US, but the OP's concerns didn't appear to me to be about the issue of expenses....some areas of the world are expensive.
russ_watters said:I'm aware, but I didn't see a specific part of the post that triggered a recognition of such a difference. Hopefully @micromass wasn't saying that people outside of the US take longer to grow-up than Americans!
As are some areas of the US, but the OP's concerns didn't appear to me to be about the issue of expenses.
I would hope that in any country a 21 year old would be old/mature enough to understand the score regarding their choices and relationship with their parents - whatever they may be - but I recognize that many are not.
HAYAO said:Actually, in places like Japan, students have little to no hope of financially supporting themselves if they are a student. There are hardly any scholarships in Japan so one must almost always have to depend on their parents for financial support. I believe this is part of the reason why Japanese are generally much less capable for their age in terms of responsibility and maturity. Because they are not obliged to work on their own and support themselves, they feel less responsible for the consequences and overreliant on other people. Even Ph.D candidates don't get paid whatsoever unless you apply for some program, which only very small number of people get accepted.
Japanese parents generally interfere quite a lot with their children's affair, no matter how old they are. Culturally, Japanese tend to prioritize group/society more than the individual and prioritize older people than younger people. So Japanese parents believe they have the right to order, in any way they want, their children to fit their own desires for their children. So if you have parents that have a different view than you do, then you are going to have a lot of problems in your life.
I believe this is also the reason why Japanese are generally much less capable for their age because basically they are forced to do what their parents and society say, and cannot think for their own.
It is quite strange to me that Japanese people will call someone "mature" if they learn to do exactly the same thing as other people do, and prioritize other people over themselves. Personally, I think that is stupid because they are basically throwing away their ability to think for themselves and succumb to their parents and society, regardless of whether they may be right or wrong.