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My dad pursued a divorce about three months ago, and my parents are now separated. This didn't surprise me at all because for at least the past 10 years, it's been obvious to me that my dad no longer had any affection for my mom, especially because he's in an openly adulterous relationship. However, my parents are both very naive about romance because they've never dated any partner other than each other, so my dad didn't have the will to pursue the divorce until now, and my mom has been in denial this entire time about my dad's lack of any affection.
Anyways, ever since the separation, my mom has been extremely depressed. She was obviously not expecting the divorce, and even after 3 months, has not recovered from it. We talk on the phone every week, and she used to be so talkative that I would lose patience and try to hang up at every opportunity. Now, she only says one or two sentences in a sad tone before hanging up.
Tomorrow, I'm going to be visiting my parents for the first time since the divorce. It'll be awkward deciding who to visit at what time, but after I get that settled, how should I talk to my mom? What advice, if any, should I give? Unfortunately, I'm very distant from both parents--I've never felt comfortable calling them "mom" or "dad", never told them I love them, and never considered them people to look up to. Yet as a human being, I feel like I should be doing something to help, even if I don't truly sorry for my mom.
Anyways, ever since the separation, my mom has been extremely depressed. She was obviously not expecting the divorce, and even after 3 months, has not recovered from it. We talk on the phone every week, and she used to be so talkative that I would lose patience and try to hang up at every opportunity. Now, she only says one or two sentences in a sad tone before hanging up.
Tomorrow, I'm going to be visiting my parents for the first time since the divorce. It'll be awkward deciding who to visit at what time, but after I get that settled, how should I talk to my mom? What advice, if any, should I give? Unfortunately, I'm very distant from both parents--I've never felt comfortable calling them "mom" or "dad", never told them I love them, and never considered them people to look up to. Yet as a human being, I feel like I should be doing something to help, even if I don't truly sorry for my mom.