How do boys express their feelings for someone they like?

[Lisa!]

Ok what do they do? How do they let the girl to know that? I mean for sure they don't tell the girl that they love her the moment they feel obssed with her. For sure it takes some time for them to let her know about their interest!
I'm really terrible in knowing that. I don't want to be like 1 of those stupid who accuse others of being in love with them or have a crush them while it's themselves who's in love with the guy and not poor guy. I'm talking about those silly girls who keep an open eye on ething the guy is doing and then think verywhatever the hell the guy is doing and talking is meant their to draw their attention.

 

[JasonRox]

Um... why don't you just ask the guy out on a date?

He may not like you as of now, but would probably like to go on a date. Then he may start to like by getting to know you.

This goes for guys too. Just ask the girl out.

If you wait and wait and wait until it's a for sure deal that you both like each other, you'll end up dating like one or two (most likely one) people in your lives, which will probably not end up anywhere. (That's life.)

So, just show a lot of interests or flat out ask him out. That's how you figure it out.

Note: I know of girls who asked out guys. My girlfriend said she would have asked me out if I didn't for the first few days. She couldn't wait.

 

[Lisa!]

Um... why don't you just ask the guy out on a date?

1. I prefer him to ask me out if he loves me in order to show me how confident he is! If he doesn't love me, I don't think I am going to change his mind.(well that's because I've not met a guy who I feel he's worthy enough to take the time)

2. Are you kidding me? He's so egotistical. You know I'venot let him that I'm interested in him. I just tried to show well I don't dislike him and didn't ignore him as much as the other... But Wow! Recently he just act weird. I mean he ignores me sometimes or come around me and talking to others while standing back to me! Oh in return I just cut him dead like before. And now he seems to change that attitude alittle!
Ok ok I think we are too old for that sort of games but it seems he tinks different. In fact I guess I don't think we can get anywhere. The only thingI want to know is whether it was all my imagination or he really had a crush on me!

 

[octelcogopod]

Well, I don't think he "loves" you quite yet..

There's no way for us to tell if he had a crush on you from here, I don't think anyone here has met the guy.
Also don't be afraid to show that you like him, that's a typical mistake girls do that only lead to confusion..

That does not mean to act slutty either, it just means, call him and ask if he wants to do stuff, then see what happens, it doesn't even have to be a date.
Depends on how well you know him also.

 

[Cyrus]

Flirtation alert! :!) :!) :!) :!)

 

[Mattara]

Ok what do they do? How do they let the girl to know that? I mean for sure they don't tell the girl that they love her the moment they feel obssed with her. For sure it takes some time for them to let her know about their interest!
I'm really terrible in knowing that. I don't want to be like 1 of those stupid who accuse others of being in love with them or have a crush them while it's themselves who's in love with the guy and not poor guy. I'm talking about those silly girls who keep an open eye on ething the guy is doing and then think verywhatever the hell the guy is doing and talking is meant their to draw their attention.

Tries to not look at here. Can't help staring. Must stop staring. At her. Fails.

That is guys in a nutshell.

 

[Lisa!]

Well, I don't think he "loves" you quite yet..

Sure!

There's no way for us to tell if he had a crush on you from here, I don't think anyone here has met the guy.

How on Earth do you think I expect you to know that? There's no mention about him at OP!

Also don't be afraid to show that you like him, that's a typical mistake girls do that only lead to confusion..

In this case it's big mistake to let him know! He's egotistical and more important than that I don't think anything in common with.

 

[Schrodinger's Dog]

Tries to not look at here. Can't help staring. Must stop staring. At her. Fails.

That is guys in a nutshell.

Most guys think girls are psychic and they can pick up on all these signals, but they learn by experience that all this flirtation albeit very subtle doesn't work, trouble is some guys are just to shy to make the first move, and I am often one of them. I once waited so long to show a girl interest that by the time I did, she was engaged

Damn it, if it taught me anything it taught me not to play around making subtle advances. And I'm hoping you won't either Lisa. It's not considered de rigueur for the girl to make the second move any more, there are plenty of ways to show your interested without the obvious, but sometimes guys are just too dumb to recognise them, so try the direct approach, you never know it just might work?

 

[Evo]

Just do what I used to do, go up to the guy and ask "so, where are you taking me Friday night?" It always worked.

 

[JasonRox]

Just do what I used to do, go up to the guy and ask "so, where are you taking me Friday night?" It always worked.

That would make my day too.

 

[Lisa!]

So all of you think that I should ask him out, eh?

All right! Sounds fine but not in this case. Moreover recently I'm losing confidence on myself. I feel that he ignores me because I'm ugly and boring. Oh although I feel the other way about some time ago. Anyway things are getting worse every day. Today I preten that I don't see/know him although we were in a face to face position. I guess he also expects me to make the 1st move since he is too confident and feel like he's God's gift to women. On the hand since his position at work is superior to me, he always think he's greater than us. Argh! I can't stand egotistical people.

 

[DaveC426913]

Oh, this is someone from work? Ayay.
And he's a superior? Ayayay.
You might want to think about that...



Anyway, assuiming you assess and accept the risks of dating someone from work...


Stop playing games. Ask him if he wants to grab a coffee.

You can be as gentle or as bold as the desire suits you, but don't just sit around and wait for him to make the move. This is the 21st century! You are Woman!

 

[@rt!fex]

I'd tease you and laugh with how serious you are.But be confident,I can say that a lot of guys are just as serious as you as they would give their lives for loving you :D

 

[Schrodinger's Dog]

So all of you think that I should ask him out, eh?

All right! Sounds fine but not in this case. Moreover recently I'm losing confidence on myself. I feel that he ignores me because I'm ugly and boring. Oh although I feel the other way about some time ago. Anyway things are getting worse every day. Today I preten that I don't see/know him although we were in a face to face position. I guess he also expects me to make the 1st move since he is too confident and feel like he's God's gift to women. On the hand since his position at work is superior to me, he always think he's greater than us. Argh! I can't stand egotistical people.

Seven Days: by Sting

"Seven Days" was all she wrote
A kind of ultimatum note
She gave to me, she gave to me
When I thought the field had cleared
It seems another suit appeared
To challenge me, woe is me
Though I hate to make a choice
My options are decreasing mostly rapidly
Well we'll see
I don't think she'd bluff this time
I really have to make her mine
It's plain to see
It's him or me

Monday, I could wait till Tuesday
If I make up my mind
Wednesday would be fine, Thursday's on my mind
Friday'd give me time, Saturday could wait
But Sunday'd be too late

The fact that he's over six feet ten
Might instill fear in other men
But not in me, The Mighty Flea (flee?)
Ask if I am mouse or man
The mirror squeaked, away I ran
He'll murder me in time for his tea
Does it bother me at all
My rival is Neanderthal, it makes me think
Perhaps I need a drink
IQ is no problem here
We won't be playing Scrabble for her hand I fear
I need that beer

Monday, I could wait till Tuesday
If I make up my mind
Wednesday would be fine, Thursday's on my mind
Friday'd give me time, Saturday could wait
But Sunday'd be too late

Seven days will quickly go
The fact remains, I love her so
Seven days, so many ways
But I can't run away

Monday, I could wait till Tuesday
If I make up my mind
Wednesday would be fine, Thursday's on my mind
Friday'd give me time, Saturday could wait
But Sunday'd be too late
Do I have to tell a story
Of a thousand rainy days since we first met
It's a big enough umbrella
But it's always me that ends up getting wet

Replace the word she with he, him with her etc, this is one song that I attribute to my own ability to make the first move. Hope it helps, I'm still the same shy uptight person even though I know I shouldn't be

 

[@rt!fex]

Yeah just take sting for advice lol

 

[Schrodinger's Dog]

Yeah just take sting for advice lol

Erm no, think you might of missed the point, I take it as pretty indicative of my situation and the problem's I personally have with shyness and procrastination in love, I take it as the reason why I shouldn't take his advice.

never take Sting for advice, take it for its lack of advice

 

[Kurdt]

I'm awful because I suffer terribly from nerves especially in the company of women I really like and this makes me feel incredibly sick. Perhaps this guy has a similar problem so if you like him just ask (and beware of vomit if he does have a similar condition, but don't worry its love vomit not hate vomit ).

 

[Mickey]

I mean for sure they don't tell the girl that they love her the moment they feel obssed with her.

Yes, they do.

You sound like you need to read this book.

 

[Pythagorean]

wow, interesting advice. Eve has a pretty good idea, but in the end, each boy is different. If they're confident and outgoing (to generalize) then they'll usually reply openly to Eve's idea, and you'll find out. Though, they'll probably already have hit on your if they're a confident, healthy male, and they're attracted to you.

If they're more introverted or have issues with women (not saying he's a bad guy, but socially inpet and/or emotionally underdeveloped) than he might run scared, especially if he likes you (if you come straight out with it as in Eve's example).

And these are just two extremes, everyone's a bit different. If there's chemistry between you though, the only way you'll know is if you make some kind of advance (since it sounds like either he's too chicken, or not interested).

 

[Mickey]

"Too chicken" is another way of saying "not interested enough to overcome chicken-ness."

 

[Astronuc]

Ok what do they do? How do they let the girl to know that? I mean for sure they don't tell the girl that they love her the moment they feel obssed with her. For sure it takes some time for them to let her know about their interest!
I'm really terrible in knowing that. I don't want to be like 1 of those stupid who accuse others of being in love with them or have a crush them while it's themselves who's in love with the guy and not poor guy. I'm talking about those silly girls who keep an open eye on ething the guy is doing and then think verywhatever the hell the guy is doing and talking is meant their to draw their attention.

If a boy looks at you in a certain way, and talks to you in a certain way, then perhaps he is interested. Ask him.

BTW - does he know the words and wisdom of محمد بلخى‎ and جبران خليل جبران ?

 

[Pythagorean]

"Too chicken" is another way of saying "not interested enough to overcome chicken-ness."

that's a rather pessimistic view. It really can be harder then you'd imagine. Why does all this pressure exist on the male to make the first move anyway? I thought that died with feminism.

 

[Mickey]

that's a rather pessimistic view. It really can be harder then you'd imagine. Why does all this pressure exist on the male to make the first move anyway? I thought that died with feminism.

Well, it doesn't mean he's not interested. It just means he's not *that* interested.

I'm interested in being a professional artist, but I can't get over giving up the possibility of being a scientist, not to mention the fear of being dirt broke, on top of all the odd jobs I'd have to do. I'm not *that* interested in it. But interests change, the more you get to know something. Once I have a better idea of how I can do what I want to do, I'll go do it. Otherwise I'm just a slacker.

Similarly, a guy might be interested in a girl, but he can't get over the thought of ruining his chances with other girls, being rejected, being made fun, or even discovering that he won't actually like the girl, the more he gets to know her. What will he do when he's stuck in a relationship? Hurt her feelings and be labeled as a jerk? He's not *that* interested.

If the girl isn't making a move, or not making efforts to overcome her own inhibitions, she's not *that* interested either. This is the 21st century. But maybe her interests would change the more she got to know the guy. All the more reason for the guy to make his move and the girl hers.

I don't understand how you could take that one statement and derive pessimism, pressure on the male to make the first move, and near anti-feminism from it. That was pretty comical!

 

[Omega_6]

Well, it doesn't mean he's not interested. It just means he's not *that* interested.

Can this not also apply to girls then? If a girl is that interested...then why wouldn't she make the first move?

I think that a guy can be *that* interested, and still be afraid to make the first move.

 

[DaveC426913]

You CANNOT base your actions on second-guessing HIM. Who knows what he's thinking?

Maybe he seriously has the hots for you, but is afraid that, as a higher-ranking employee, it could be misconstrued as sexual harrassment if he approached you. He could be thinking any number of similar things! (Have you not seen enough syrupy romantic comedies that revolve around each person misreading the orther?)

Be honest and forthright from the get-go.

 

[Physics_wiz]

BTW - does he know the words and wisdom of محمد بلخى‎ and جبران خليل جبران ?

I can read the names but I never heard of those guys . Let me guess...poets?

 

[Mk]

Rumi

does he know the words and wisdom of محمد بلخى‎ and جبران خليل جبران ?

Some people would just see question marks.

1.Rumi. The quatrains of the rubaiyat?
2.Gibran. Something.

1. I prefer him to ask me out if he loves me in order to show me how confident he is! If he doesn't love me, I don't think I am going to change his mind.

Yeah, you and every other girl on the planet. You should do what Evo said, I like that idea. Make sure to look flirty. Do whatever it is girls do with their hair and blinking and facial movements that makes them look so luscious.

 

[Mickey]

Can this not also apply to girls then? If a girl is that interested...then why wouldn't she make the first move?

Yeah, I edited my post to clarify and add that after you posted.

I think that a guy can be *that* interested, and still be afraid to make the first move.

Afraid, yes. Too afraid to actually do it? Nope, not *that* interested.

 

[Mk]

Most guys think girls are psychic and they can pick up on all these signals, but they learn by experience that all this flirtation albeit very subtle doesn't work, trouble is some guys are just to shy to make the first move, and I am often one of them. I once waited so long to show a girl interest that by the time I did, she was engaged

Damn it, if it taught me anything it taught me not to play around making subtle advances. And I'm hoping you won't either Lisa. It's not considered de rigueur for the girl to make the second move any more, there are plenty of ways to show your interested without the obvious, but sometimes guys are just too dumb to recognise them, so try the direct approach, you never know it just might work?

Don't forget, same thing with girls. Most girls think guys are psychic and they can pick up on all these signals, but they learn by experience that all this flirtation, albeit very subtle doesn't work. The trouble is some guys are just too shy to make the first move.

 

[Omega_6]

Yeah, I edited my post to clarify and add that after you posted.

That is good to hear.

Afraid, yes. Too afraid to actually do it? Nope, not *that* interested.

So, you speak for every person who has ever existed? Is it not possible that even one person has let someone who they were *that* interested in slip away?

There are people who lack *that* much confidence. I would go as far to say that there are quite a few people like this.

 

[Mickey]

Is it not possible that even one person has let someone who they were *that* interested in slip away?

Sure it's possible. You can be *that* interested and still be rejected. Happens quite a bit.

There are people who lack *that* much confidence. I would go as far to say that there are quite a few people like this.

Well, I guess they have to just hope that someone will eventually become *that* interested in them.

Or they can get over it. I mean, isn't love worth the risk? If not, they're not that interested! They obviously prefer something else more than love. Maybe security or solitude.

 

[shmoe]

...So all of you think that I should ask him out, eh?...

I would say no to that, because of:

...He's so egotistical...

and

...I guess he also expects me to make the 1st move since he is too confident and feel like he's God's gift to women. On the hand since his position at work is superior to me, he always think he's greater than us. Argh! I can't stand egotistical people...

Are you even interested in him? If so, ask away if work won't be a problem.

What I did last time I fell for a girl was to clean my apartment, just in case. I wouldn't suggest that you should go peek in his window though.

 

[Astronuc]

I can read the names but I never heard of those guys . Let me guess...poets?

and writers. Mk is correct. Rumi (1207 — 1273) Persian writer, poet, jurist, theologian and Sufi teacher, and Khalil Gibran (1883 – 1931) was a contemporary writer and poet originally from Bsharri, Lebanon.

 

[star.torturer]

as there has been no reply from Lisa!...

EDIT: great somhow i ended up posting while still typing, wow i have mind controls

 

[Astronuc]

Lisa as woman, I would tell you to go for a guy that sweeps you off your feet and adores you, and, of course, who you also happen to like. Do not have patience with wusses and losers. Trust your instincts on this. And never, never feel sorry for a man. Good women are way too soft hearted sometimes. Also, if the man is worthy of you but a bit reserved and somewhat an introvert, make it a bit easier for him and be nice to him, so he does not think you are picky and unapproachable, but let him think he initiated everything. This is important for the ego's of men somehow. And remember, a woman is always too good for the man.

Tough love!