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I wanted to have a rhyming title, so I said cessation of communication but basically I'm talking about no longer speaking to a certain person.
This is a "friend" of mine from Berkeley that was a roommate for a year in sophomore year and has been my hang-out buddy for 4-5 years.
However I've noted that he's never very encouraging in terms of what I'm interested in. Meaning he always berates and demeans me for loving astronomy, stating that I will never make money with it and whatnot. (He's in business mind you so he's money-centered).
He's actually a complete dolt when it comes to anything sciencey or mathy and even when it comes to communication and english (especially writing) he's not succeeded at. So to him I guess he derives pleasure in berating me for being a better writer at times, a better mathematician at times and so on.
So he's still up in nor cal, I'm down in so cal. I'm back home to my friends and family and have moved on with things. Yet he's still calling me 2 times a day. None of my friends call me, let alone this much. I have tons of problems going on at the moment. One of our family members died, and I have to stay strong for the sake of my mom and dad. I have to worry about my GRE, a couple of class I will be taking starting september, my job starting this next week and so on. He's trying to shovel his problems onto me by calling me twice a day everyday for the past 2 - 3 months or so. He expects me to joke and be funny all the time and always wants me to listen to his issues. Yet when I speak out just a little bit about what's going on with me, he automatically doesn't want to listen to it and starts going on a tirade.
He's only there when he wants you and when he wants to f-around. He's always been telling me to skip class and whatnot and I can put the blame squarely on him for quite a few mistakes in my academic life at Berkeley.
So these days, I've quit talking to him. He's been a persistent little rat and has been trying to IM me when I ignore him, email me constantly with the most inane stories and ideas, and what have you, but I've also tried to be persistent in ignoring him.
Is it wrong of me to stop talking to someone that's just this useless, and that has never been there for you when you needed someone to joke and talk to? I feel guilty as he's been a friend for so many years, but I guess in a way I let him be a friend. I could well have just ignored him and left him at acquaintance level.
I don't know, has anyone else experienced this? What's the best course of action?
This is a "friend" of mine from Berkeley that was a roommate for a year in sophomore year and has been my hang-out buddy for 4-5 years.
However I've noted that he's never very encouraging in terms of what I'm interested in. Meaning he always berates and demeans me for loving astronomy, stating that I will never make money with it and whatnot. (He's in business mind you so he's money-centered).
He's actually a complete dolt when it comes to anything sciencey or mathy and even when it comes to communication and english (especially writing) he's not succeeded at. So to him I guess he derives pleasure in berating me for being a better writer at times, a better mathematician at times and so on.
So he's still up in nor cal, I'm down in so cal. I'm back home to my friends and family and have moved on with things. Yet he's still calling me 2 times a day. None of my friends call me, let alone this much. I have tons of problems going on at the moment. One of our family members died, and I have to stay strong for the sake of my mom and dad. I have to worry about my GRE, a couple of class I will be taking starting september, my job starting this next week and so on. He's trying to shovel his problems onto me by calling me twice a day everyday for the past 2 - 3 months or so. He expects me to joke and be funny all the time and always wants me to listen to his issues. Yet when I speak out just a little bit about what's going on with me, he automatically doesn't want to listen to it and starts going on a tirade.
He's only there when he wants you and when he wants to f-around. He's always been telling me to skip class and whatnot and I can put the blame squarely on him for quite a few mistakes in my academic life at Berkeley.
So these days, I've quit talking to him. He's been a persistent little rat and has been trying to IM me when I ignore him, email me constantly with the most inane stories and ideas, and what have you, but I've also tried to be persistent in ignoring him.
Is it wrong of me to stop talking to someone that's just this useless, and that has never been there for you when you needed someone to joke and talk to? I feel guilty as he's been a friend for so many years, but I guess in a way I let him be a friend. I could well have just ignored him and left him at acquaintance level.
I don't know, has anyone else experienced this? What's the best course of action?