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mcknia07 said:Yeah, true. Very good point thereStandards are crap!
Are you going to college for science? If so, what field are you specifying in?
I've felt really lonely as of late
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In summary, the person feels lonely and regretful in their life. They don't have any profound relationships and have difficulty forming friendships because they are too honest. They feel like they are a robot and don't belong in the world. They would like to have a pet, but they are currently unable to.
Are you going to college for science? If so, what field are you specifying in?
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LightbulbSun said:
Yeah I'm going to college, but for Mechanical Engineering. I absolutely love it so far!
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Light bulb sun, this is loneliness as opposed to "alone time"?
Try your best to do two things.
1. use retrospection to see who your real friends are (and this includes yourself)
a. for instance, take yourself out for ice cream, coffees and dinners. You wouldn't bore a
real friend by feeling lonely and sorry would you? Don't do it to yourself.
b. search your memory for who it was that seemed to understand your sense of humour and your way of seeing. Contact them or remember to talk to them next time you see them.
2. Value this time as an opportunity to get to know yourself.
a. this will make you a better friend in the end.
Try your best to do two things.
1. use retrospection to see who your real friends are (and this includes yourself)
a. for instance, take yourself out for ice cream, coffees and dinners. You wouldn't bore a
real friend by feeling lonely and sorry would you? Don't do it to yourself.
b. search your memory for who it was that seemed to understand your sense of humour and your way of seeing. Contact them or remember to talk to them next time you see them.
2. Value this time as an opportunity to get to know yourself.
a. this will make you a better friend in the end.
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mcknia07 said:
Very nice. I'm eventually going to go to school for web design.
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baywax said:
It's a case of both.
Sounds like good advice. I appreciate your thoughtful post.
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LightbulbSun said:
Sweetness, that sounds like it would be really fun :) So, you aren't in college now then?
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mcknia07 said:
No. I have to pay off a loan first, which should be happening soon. I've been doing a lot of learning from home so I'm not an absolute beginner with it.
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LightbulbSun said:
Oh ok, well that's good then. How long do you have to go to school to be a web designer?
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mcknia07 said:
I'm not sure about the details of it, but I believe it's only a two year thing. It's probably more though.
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LightbulbSun said:
Nice, college can be expensive too, so two years shouldn't be too bad, then
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Evo said:WHOA! I can't believe it, someone has made a smiley out of our fish whacking ceremony!
Handy dandy, ain't it?
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dianne said:
Thanks, and welcome aboard.
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Daniel Y. said:
Yet they pretty well know that what's going on in a typical man's head, since it's a lot easier to know what's going on in an empty head!
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Nothing!
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LightbulbSun said:It's a case of both.
Sounds like good advice. I appreciate your thoughtful post.
It's easy to give advice. What's happened to your high school friends? Those are bonds that can be deep and long lasting. I have one friend from grade 5. We used to surreptitiously draw hot-rods and funny cars together in class. We both got into windsurfing and now he's a fanatic. Lots of cool people on the beach.
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There's some that do though. I've met two this year, amazing girls.
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baywax said:
Most of my high school friends betrayed me in the end. The ones that didn't are distant from me now, and are too caught up in other things to reestablish anything.
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LightbulbSun said:
OK. I doubt that they're too caught up to do something. But, if you've talked to them and that's the response, who needs em!
Betrayed you? What is your definition of betrayal?
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baywax said:
Stopped being my friend on the grounds of an event I wasn't involved in and was unaware of. That kind of betrayal.
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LightbulbSun said:
That sounds more like misinterpretation, misunderstanding and poor communication.
Betrayal in my dictionary is sucker-punching, malicious and unwarranted acts of harm to others that are done solely for the benefit of the betrayer. Its a lot like a traitorous act to a nation.
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I think you found an answer right here. There are dozens of potential friends on this sight willing to discuss your issues (while bringing up a few of their own). Yes, people can be shallow and self-absorbed (the number one cause of loneliness, by the way), but if you make the effort to reach out, you will be able to demand the effort from your friends, without guilt. Start with a simple request, like: "Can I ask you for a little of your time?"
Explain that you just need someone to listen to you, not to try to come up with some quick answer to your problems. And understand the obligation to listen to what they have to say in response. Consider their opinions and express some gratitude regardless of their response.
You'll find you can't do this and feel lonely at the same time, and when people feel appreciated, they become better friends.
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Try enjoying yourself before you expect anyone else to do that.
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This member hasn't been here in 2 years.poeteye said: