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My life hasn't exactly gone as planned...
I graduated in 2008 with a double major in electrical engineering and physics and had always wanted to go to graduate school in electrical engineering and get a PhD so I could one day become a professor. Well, I got accepted to a good grad school and moved across the country. I did poorly in my classes (~3.2 gpa with three B minuses) and I was not interested in my research. I got depressed and was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder (I don't know if I got depressed because I was doing poorly or if I was doing poorly because I got depressed). I started getting paranoid in my research group and struggled a great deal. I ended up taking a one year leave of absence and moved back home. During this time I spent the whole year in my room freaking out. I looked for a job during this time but I couldn't find anything. A year later I went back to the same grad school but to a different research group and in a different research area. I picked up where I left off, but I felt like I did not have the ability to understand the research my new group was working on. The first group I was in the research was fairly simple but I just found it boring. In the second research group I found the research to be too abstract and I felt like I didn't have the ability to understand it. It was very theoretical. I sunk into a deep depression again only a couple months after going back and started having anxiety attacks and my confidence was low. I was sleeping up to 16 hours per day and I lost all of my motivation. I moved back home for a second time and decided grad school just wasn't for me.
I spent about 5 months looking for a job and I finally found a 6 month temp-to-hire contract job as a semiconductor process engineer. This job is very boring and not challenging and I hate going each day. The pay is fairly low as well. I have been at this job for 3.5 months. The first 3 months I was absolutely miserable. I'd sleep 12 hours per day and my motivation was very low and I was still very depressed. However, recently I switched to a different anti depressant and my motivation and general disposition improved dramatically. I still hate my job but at least outside of work I am happier. I am starting to think I want to return to the same grad school and I am thinking I want to do integrated circuit design instead of the research I was doing before. However, I am not sure if I need to reapply to the school or not. If I can just return without reapplying I can go back this fall but if I need to reapply I won't be able to return until fall 2012, if I get accepted again at all. I just really hate my job and I want to get back into grad school ASAP. I think I would fare a lot better now that I am doing better.
I know my parents won't like it if I tell them I want to go back after dropping out twice already but I think this is the right thing to do. I will probably have to pay my own way for my first semester or two in order to prove myself since nobody will want to give me RA/TA funding after dropping out twice already. I will have to volunteer with a prof for a semester or two to prove that I am ready.
So how do I convince my parents that I am ready to go back? Should I even go back, or should I just give up the dream of being a professor and stick with my job? Should I just find a different job that I like more?
Also, the good thing about my job is I can start paying off the 30K in student loans I have from undergrad. I just absolutely hate my job.
I graduated in 2008 with a double major in electrical engineering and physics and had always wanted to go to graduate school in electrical engineering and get a PhD so I could one day become a professor. Well, I got accepted to a good grad school and moved across the country. I did poorly in my classes (~3.2 gpa with three B minuses) and I was not interested in my research. I got depressed and was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder (I don't know if I got depressed because I was doing poorly or if I was doing poorly because I got depressed). I started getting paranoid in my research group and struggled a great deal. I ended up taking a one year leave of absence and moved back home. During this time I spent the whole year in my room freaking out. I looked for a job during this time but I couldn't find anything. A year later I went back to the same grad school but to a different research group and in a different research area. I picked up where I left off, but I felt like I did not have the ability to understand the research my new group was working on. The first group I was in the research was fairly simple but I just found it boring. In the second research group I found the research to be too abstract and I felt like I didn't have the ability to understand it. It was very theoretical. I sunk into a deep depression again only a couple months after going back and started having anxiety attacks and my confidence was low. I was sleeping up to 16 hours per day and I lost all of my motivation. I moved back home for a second time and decided grad school just wasn't for me.
I spent about 5 months looking for a job and I finally found a 6 month temp-to-hire contract job as a semiconductor process engineer. This job is very boring and not challenging and I hate going each day. The pay is fairly low as well. I have been at this job for 3.5 months. The first 3 months I was absolutely miserable. I'd sleep 12 hours per day and my motivation was very low and I was still very depressed. However, recently I switched to a different anti depressant and my motivation and general disposition improved dramatically. I still hate my job but at least outside of work I am happier. I am starting to think I want to return to the same grad school and I am thinking I want to do integrated circuit design instead of the research I was doing before. However, I am not sure if I need to reapply to the school or not. If I can just return without reapplying I can go back this fall but if I need to reapply I won't be able to return until fall 2012, if I get accepted again at all. I just really hate my job and I want to get back into grad school ASAP. I think I would fare a lot better now that I am doing better.
I know my parents won't like it if I tell them I want to go back after dropping out twice already but I think this is the right thing to do. I will probably have to pay my own way for my first semester or two in order to prove myself since nobody will want to give me RA/TA funding after dropping out twice already. I will have to volunteer with a prof for a semester or two to prove that I am ready.
So how do I convince my parents that I am ready to go back? Should I even go back, or should I just give up the dream of being a professor and stick with my job? Should I just find a different job that I like more?
Also, the good thing about my job is I can start paying off the 30K in student loans I have from undergrad. I just absolutely hate my job.