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Moonbear
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Valentine's doesn't have to mean lovey-dovey (I understand your feeling on that one...people do go over the top, I mean, they pull out the little candy hearts in their avatars and everything 
) But, having a date for Valentine's day is sort of like having a date for the prom. You're happy to go out with someone who is just a friend or on a first date as long as you're not the only one who doesn't have a date. If anything, I think it helps take the pressure off a bit. But then, I'm not your typical woman when it comes to things like Valentine's day, so maybe I shouldn't give you advice when it comes to this.
But, we're talking about post-date follow-up. Friday night isn't Valentine's day yet, but if you hit it off and are interested in more dates, then swing by with or send her some flowers or a heart-shaped box of candy. Don't want to be too sickeningly lovey-dovey, then on the note, write something simple, like, "Enjoyed Friday night, looking forward to seeing you again."
Besides, if the whole idea of the holiday bothers you, then this is a really good way to find out early on, before it's more than just a few dates, if you have similar views on things like that. If you're not the sappy romantic who wants to gush over Hallmark-inspired holidays, and she would be furious to be home alone on Valentine's day because you're stuck in the lab working late on a weeknight, then it makes life easy to sort that out quickly.
) But, having a date for Valentine's day is sort of like having a date for the prom. You're happy to go out with someone who is just a friend or on a first date as long as you're not the only one who doesn't have a date. If anything, I think it helps take the pressure off a bit. But then, I'm not your typical woman when it comes to things like Valentine's day, so maybe I shouldn't give you advice when it comes to this. But, we're talking about post-date follow-up. Friday night isn't Valentine's day yet, but if you hit it off and are interested in more dates, then swing by with or send her some flowers or a heart-shaped box of candy. Don't want to be too sickeningly lovey-dovey, then on the note, write something simple, like, "Enjoyed Friday night, looking forward to seeing you again."
Besides, if the whole idea of the holiday bothers you, then this is a really good way to find out early on, before it's more than just a few dates, if you have similar views on things like that. If you're not the sappy romantic who wants to gush over Hallmark-inspired holidays, and she would be furious to be home alone on Valentine's day because you're stuck in the lab working late on a weeknight, then it makes life easy to sort that out quickly.