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But then why are you unhappy if you know how to avoid unhapiness decoz?
What has been your biggest FAILURE in Life? Admit it
In summary, the conversation revolved around personal regrets and failures. Some of the regrets mentioned were not completing college due to family obligations, not developing a working time machine, and not pursuing a girl from high school. Some of the failures mentioned were not living up to one's potential, not putting enough effort into school or work, and not making the best decisions. However, there were also discussions about learning from mistakes, rectifying past mistakes, and being inspired by others. Other topics that were brought up included being one's own worst critic, not recognizing true beauty, and underestimating the greed and ambitions of others. Overall, the conversation highlighted the importance of learning from past experiences and not letting failures define oneself.
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Its unfortunate that the unhappiest events tend to be the ones we remember most clearly. Must be part of the defence mechanism so we never repeat them.
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decoz
Because I don't have a lot of time left. I know life is short whatever time you get is luck.
One thing to keep in mind:
Have no attachment in life you not willing to walk out 30 sec flat if you spot the heat around the corner.
BY
RN
One thing to keep in mind:
Have no attachment in life you not willing to walk out 30 sec flat if you spot the heat around the corner.
BY
RN
- #39
vsage
Working too hard. I missed quite a few special events around school due to either my job or schoolwork which I regret to some extent. Cutting down on my classes this last semester of school in order to stop and smell the roses :)
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Fail in 4 physics exam questions, that leave me to the 20 place in the physics olympic.
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Hi, I wish I had been told early on about a wonderful book called...
"How to Win Friends and Influence people". I should have saved myself some grief, and perhaps won more of what I wanted , and had less antagonizing
situations better recognized with the help of this wondrous volume of sage contemplation and sound counsel. It will be the finest $8.00 you shall ever spend on a book, and prove worthy each day, and mark you as someone desreving in your enterprises. Dale Carnegie should well be remembered as the Father of Business and cooperation. When I teach a novice, One of the first things I do is mention this title. Many is the time that they come back to me and thank me whole heartedly for this inspiration. It can change your life for the better. Would that it was on the Freshman reading list, now and always.
This book, alone, can counter the "IN your face attitude" so prevalent today,
and help turn things around for those who will read with understanding, and hold dear the "Logic which never Fails".
Best regards All,
Daniel
"How to Win Friends and Influence people". I should have saved myself some grief, and perhaps won more of what I wanted , and had less antagonizing
situations better recognized with the help of this wondrous volume of sage contemplation and sound counsel. It will be the finest $8.00 you shall ever spend on a book, and prove worthy each day, and mark you as someone desreving in your enterprises. Dale Carnegie should well be remembered as the Father of Business and cooperation. When I teach a novice, One of the first things I do is mention this title. Many is the time that they come back to me and thank me whole heartedly for this inspiration. It can change your life for the better. Would that it was on the Freshman reading list, now and always.
This book, alone, can counter the "IN your face attitude" so prevalent today,
and help turn things around for those who will read with understanding, and hold dear the "Logic which never Fails".
Best regards All,
Daniel
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The problem in our lives is that we spend to much time wanting things and then become unhappy because we want more things and then we are never satisfied. If take old teachings from buddha we can learn that in eliminating wants or atleast minimiseing them, we will feel more happiness and less suffering.
I have no regrets in my life so far, there have been things that at the time I wish regretted but in retrospect it was better the way it happened. I try and live each day, not just walk through it.
I have no regrets in my life so far, there have been things that at the time I wish regretted but in retrospect it was better the way it happened. I try and live each day, not just walk through it.
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Boy are there a lot of people here who have some living to do. I have seen few here "failures" that matter in the long run. Getting a B on test 
The failure of my first marriage has haunted me. Thou I am very happy to be separated from the ex, the separation from my sons is a wound that will not heal. I have maintained a close relationship with both, but...
Both played instruments (trumpet and trombone) in HS, I never heard them play. Both have grown up and married and I have listened to their lives in weekly, now sometimes monthly, phone calls. I have 2 grandsons, with a 3rd on the way who are growing up and I am missing their lives as well.
The problem is the continent which separates us and a 2nd marriage which has changed priorities.
(Ivan, please do not mention this post to, or in the presence of, Derivative)
The failure of my first marriage has haunted me. Thou I am very happy to be separated from the ex, the separation from my sons is a wound that will not heal. I have maintained a close relationship with both, but...
Both played instruments (trumpet and trombone) in HS, I never heard them play. Both have grown up and married and I have listened to their lives in weekly, now sometimes monthly, phone calls. I have 2 grandsons, with a 3rd on the way who are growing up and I am missing their lives as well.
The problem is the continent which separates us and a 2nd marriage which has changed priorities.
(Ivan, please do not mention this post to, or in the presence of, Derivative)
- #44
decoz
I can give one suggestion:
Forget what happened, Now on live life as if it was your last second in this world and make the best effort to do what you do.
Once again I repeat, if you want to be happy in life , have no attachment in life you not willing to walk out 30 sec falt if you spot the heat around the corner.
Remember that and you will never feel any emotion, no unhappiness.
Thanks
RN
Forget what happened, Now on live life as if it was your last second in this world and make the best effort to do what you do.
Once again I repeat, if you want to be happy in life , have no attachment in life you not willing to walk out 30 sec falt if you spot the heat around the corner.
Remember that and you will never feel any emotion, no unhappiness.
Thanks
RN
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decoz
Come on Guys and Gals
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decoz said:
But then you will never feel any happiness either?
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decoz said:
If one lived like that, he'd probably burn out in no time.
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rhuthwaite
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Feeling is all part of life, it makes us human
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decoz
I don't think so. I was like that human. I used to feel like a stranger in a no name town.
But now I am tough, I don't give a **** about nobody.
I just don't care,
Thanks
RN
But now I am tough, I don't give a **** about nobody.
I just don't care,
Thanks
RN
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decoz said:
Well, if you're telling the truth, you have been gifted a virtue.
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How can you just not care? I care about everything and I love it. I do everything I do with passion, energy and enthusiasium really living life and trying to help others feel good. Generally the things I do like sport I will never do the best it and don't train as hard as I should but I do well at it, making rep. teams when I never should've, because do it with all my heart. I care about what everyone feels, thinks, wants to do I couldn't live without caring I would be an absolute mess
- #52
decoz
well guess what dude, I think you are an absolute mess. I don't mean no disrespect to you or anyboody, But that's how I think.
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rhuthwaite
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What makes you think I am a mess?!
- #54
decoz
Forget it bro. Have a good life . Good luck
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decoz said:
How can you enjoy life though, if you have no emotions? Surely that just makes everyday dull and monotonous, with nothing to wake up to enjoy?
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Does PF have a suicide patrol?
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decoz said:
this is rather unfortunate, but it is unfortunatelly true... people hurt... situations hurt... you get emotions involved and there you find yourself all by yourself crushed into pieces drinking alone at night... affects your school work, etc. ... then once you are over it you make a deal with yourself to never end up like that again... well i just had one bad experience but is 'memorable' enough...
failures?...hmmmm i don't want to think of my past in those terms... I typically put all I have in terms of effort into school and then hope for the best. Oh, also someone taught me to make informed decisions and NEVER look back no matter what the outcome... not going to help
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as the great satchel paige once said:, "don't look back, something might be gaining on you."
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Not getting to know a friend better before he took his life.
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Well I think decoz is just being honest and we should all respect that. It does seem that Ruthwaite thinks people who don't love everybody are in a mess, which is a very odd thing to say. If that's true, she can only be said to be loving everyone because she doesn't want to be in a mess herself. That is a negative way to live, living so that you aren't something or other.
Whereas we should try to live so that we are something. We shouldn't run away, we should run towards. I think the way to become happy is to stop running and escaping and ignoring and rather to look at things honestly and find a positive reason to live. And when you find that reason, you will likely be more happy than you have ever been.
This approach is also very beneficial because if you are living negatively, people can control you because they can imply or suggest that you are something you wish not to be. Many people are gullible in this way, like when a boyfriend says "if you love me, you will sleep with me".
If you define yourself in comparison to others, they will control you. This is a simple truth. If you find a reason to live for yourself, you become your own master.
Whereas we should try to live so that we are something. We shouldn't run away, we should run towards. I think the way to become happy is to stop running and escaping and ignoring and rather to look at things honestly and find a positive reason to live. And when you find that reason, you will likely be more happy than you have ever been.
This approach is also very beneficial because if you are living negatively, people can control you because they can imply or suggest that you are something you wish not to be. Many people are gullible in this way, like when a boyfriend says "if you love me, you will sleep with me".
If you define yourself in comparison to others, they will control you. This is a simple truth. If you find a reason to live for yourself, you become your own master.
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rhuthwaite
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I was just saying, you should love and care about something in your life, you don't have to care for everything just something
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This one time I ordered soup and not salad- I have regreted it ever since.
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rhuthwaite
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What kind of soup and what kind of salad?
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Weave said:
" Ah...You do not know how to order! You are banned 2 months!"
LOL From some soup nut or something...
Emeril taught me how to make 'his soup' . Good stuff. Stop and smell the soup! Dan