We have to train our mind to think in new ways.
You have forgot that AC circuit analysis is taught using sine waves.
Sine waves are a mathematical oddity in that they don't change shape when you differentiate them. d(sinωt) = ωcos(ωt) , both have same shape but are shifted ninety degrees from one another.
So really they're a special case and we forget about that when we're just learning classic AC circuit analysis.
Observe sinewaves have zero slope at their peak , and maximum slope at their zero crossing.
That's counterintuitive eh ?
Next , recall what teacher said, current through a capacitor is
derivative of voltage across it. i = c X dv/dt .
Now look at your sine voltage wave - when is its slope the steepest (ie derivative at maximum) ? Why, at the zero crossing of course.
Math says for the special case of sinewave, current is maximum at the same instant voltage is zero.
And current is zero at instant voltage is max.
It's all in the slopes.
Try drawing it for a triangle shaped wave. It'll help cement that derivative relationship in your mind.
old jim.