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Actually, I do treat them the same...meaning, if I know someone is drinking too much, I absolutely, positively do not allow them to drive, even if it means taking their keys away and getting them mad at me. They can drink all they want, as long as it doesn't put anyone else at risk. If they attempt to do something that will put others at risk, I put a stop to it. I went out drinking tonight, and my friend drove. I watched her consumption and even though she didn't drink much and stopped drinking long before we were ready to leave, I still asked if she was absolutely certain she was okay to drive us home tonight, let her know I was definitely not okay to drive, and also let her know that I had enough money for cab fare to get us both home if it was needed (she lives walking distance from the bar, so it was also an option to just walk back to her apartment).zoobyshoe said:My point was that you, and most people, won't treat someone you see drinking too much at a party the same way you'd treat a smoker even though that person might kill a family driving home drunk, or, more subtly, screw something up the next day at work that affects a lot of people adversly.
It's interesting you bring this up tonight, because I actually shared with my friend tonight the stories of when I was a teenager and my step-father used to drink and drive with the whole family in the vehicle. I used to make excuses to sit in the middle of the front seat (my mom had usually been drinking too on those occassions...family parties used to get pretty wild), and the entire reason was that I wanted to be able to grab the wheel if I thought we were heading for a collision. It scared me to death to see how he drove those nights, and I was completely unable to stop my parents from getting in the car and driving at that time, despite pleading for them to wait until they were sober or to spend the night. So, now that I'm older and know better how to prevent people from doing that, I'll gladly pay the cab fare for myself AND friends, or I'll take their keys away and give them no choice but to spend the night or take a cab home. I've never had anyone get mad at me for it, and even if they did, it's a risk I'm willing to take...I figure they'll probably forgive me once they're sober and realize what I stopped them from doing, and if they don't forgive me, at least they're still alive to be mad at me.