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Kerrie said:I believe compassion is a part of being human, compassion from those who desire to care for those who have limitations physically and mentally demonstrates that these caretakers are truly the strongest of human beings.
Sure, but that's exactly the opposite of the Darwinistic behaviour your "biologically determined" morality would lead to.
Kerrie said:The example you provide and those who are born with special needs are clearly different situations, one deserves compassion, the other has no need for compassion.
My point had nothing to do with special needs children, it was that appealing to biology for your ethical precepts is silly.
Kerrie said:Your statement that the fetus is not a personality or human being is an opinion, not fact. Stating your opinion as fact does not make it valid. And of course I am emotionally attached to my child, hopefully you would be too, otherwise I would certainly have compassion for them if you did not.
OK, the foetus *could* be conscious, but shows no signs of being so, like plants and rocks - after all we don't *know* what causes consciousness. But if we accept scientific evidence on brain activity, then I don't think it's a terribly controversial statement. Of course I would expect you to be emotionally attached to your children, that's not what I was criticising. I was pointing out that you have simply generalised your feelings for your children into a general moral precept without much further thought.
Kerrie said:Again, how do you know that these children have a painful and unpleasant life? Downs' children and people are some of the happiest I know. This statement points out that you have no interaction with folks like this, thus your judgement of them is extremely one sided, clearly.
As I think I made clear, it's quite possible for these children to have happy and fulfilling lives. But again it seems uncontroversial to state that they are at a disadvantage.
Kerrie said:So, if it is the responsibility of the parents to care for their children, why would they just toss a potential of a human life out?
Because it would (sometimes) be uncaring not to do so.
Kerrie said:But that problem can become an even worse one because of the emotional trauma it may lead to. I know abortion itself can wreck havoc on a woman's conscience, let alone letting her child die after she has endured 9 months of feeling life within her. Again, medical advances have allowed screening at an early stage of the pregnancy for genetic and physical deformities. To share here, I had an ultra screen done just a few weeks ago because of the family history of Downs. I was still in my first trimester of pregnancy, the time when abortion is the most safe, least invasive, and less traumatic should it have been an option depending on the test results. In essence what I am saying is, there is plenty of opportunity to find out in the pregnancy what limitations the child may have, so why wait until the child has been born and fully developed to an independent human being to make such a decision for it?
I accept this point, there is clearly a major trauma associated with depriving parents of a newborn baby which they have become attached to in the course of a pregnancy, just as there is a physical (and emotional) trauma involved with abortion. My point was that, given the choice between the two, it was probably more dangerous to attack the recently won (and still fragile, cf right to abortion in the first place) control women have over their own bodies.
Kerrie said:Again, you are assuming that the child has a disadvantaged life without any sort of awareness of what potential they can truly have, and what sort of lessons they can teach you about reality. You also have to remember, they know nothing else but what they have been given in life, thus they may have an incredible amount of (emotional) strength to deal with their limitations, unlike perhaps you who feels it is just an awful condition to have from your own personal perspective.
I am fully aware of the potential they have. I am also aware of the limitations they undeniably have, and of course they will be aware of the limitations, be aware that they are "different", and even in a world completely free of prejudice, they are going to feel bad about not being able to do some of the things "normal" people do. Doesn't mean disabled people can't leave rich and fulfilling lives. But why, given the choice, insist on bringing a disadvantaged life into the world?
Kerrie said:And as medicinal advances are made, they can contribute even more. Several "disadvantaged" folks have made me gain awareness that I wouldn't have from being around "normal" people.
It's wonderful that your experience with disabled people has given you a richer understanding of life. But that can't possibly be a justification for having them be born in the first place. There's plenty of painful and unpleasant experimentation we could do on people which would give us a lot of useful knowledge and insight, but it's banned on humanitarian grounds.
I am strongly in favour of "difference", of people in different situations developing, exchanging and together enriching their understandings of the world. That is undeniably an advantage of being "disabled" for both the disabled person and the rest of society. And I can't deny that I'm rather attracted by this romantic idea of value in life being triump over adversity, finding value in your life whatever it is. And certainly if for whatever reason your values turn out different from the mainstream, they are likely to be deeper and better considered.
However, I don't think this weighs infinitely against the undeniable disadvantages these people face. We're talking about the extreme case here. This girl is missing about 50% of the bone in her face, she's being fed into her stomach. She can't talk, she presumably can't see, she's had 15 operations to date and will need about 30 more. There's got to come a point where any compassionate person says, "enough, you can't put a person through life in this condition". Where to draw the line? Very difficult question. But there is a line to be drawn, pro-life fundamentalism is not the easy or obvious answer.
Kerrie said:I think it is horrible you compare parents who are brave enough to take on the responsibilities of these children to those who are abusive. My mother is extremely courageous to raise my brother, something I couldn't do, but she has done everything in her power to give my brother the best education and exposure to help him live his life to his greatest potential. This show of bravery is a far opposite from one who abuses a child. No offense, but I find your lack of compassion and narrow minded outlook scary. It would be a huge life changing experience for you if you volunteered your time at a home that sheltered people with special needs.
As I said before, I don't accuse these parents of having bad intentions, I don't deny they are brave and sacrifice a huge amount. But that doesn't mean (necessarily) that they are not harming the child - and it is the child's welfare here which is most important. I don't think all special needs children should be aborted - there is the harm it would do to the parents to consider, as well as the potentially richer understanding of life the child will develop. But I try to demonstrate that these reasons aren't automatically overriding with the example of the child-abusing parents. What if a parent poked their child's eyes out and said, "there, they'll develop a much richer understanding of life now"? I'm not comparing the characters of my hypothetical parents and real parents of disabled children, I'm just pointing out that in both cases a conscious decision is made to bring a disadvantaged life-form into the world. The difference is that with the parents of the disabled child, the alternative involves a huge emotional trauma to the parents, which weighs against the decision to abort. But not always.
Again please don't accuse of me of a lack of compassion just because I disagree with you. You seem like a good and caring person, but I think you're the one who's being narrow-minded here. I haven't disagreed really with anything you've said - the value of the lives of disabled people, the courage of the parents of such people, and the trauma it would do to the parents to abort their offspring. But I'm adding that there is another side to disability - discomfort, pain, adversity, and in some cases those costs are so fantastic, that it seems insane to choose on the side of life. I don't, as you do, assume a single right answer to the question, because I consider both sides of the situation.
Now the comeback obviously is the slippery slope from this point to eugenics where we live in a dystopia of uniform perfection. But my argument goes completely against that as well, because it is based on faith in people's ability to make difficult decisions, and not follow simple rules to determine their view on moral questions. There is a genuine moral dilemma here, we don't just wave people through into life, and then see what we can do to help them later.