Where to Pick Up Women In the Sciences?

[Ascendant0]

I'm making a big life change. Physics has always been a hobby of mine, but going back to college to finish a long overdue degree in physics. I'd love to find some social circles, particularly since I don't have any friends in this area yet.

As far as college, I'm in my 40s, so I'm probably going to be seen as the weird old guy going to school. I also know that the vast majority of the people in my classes (starting back at my 3rd year of undergrad) is going to be men. So, even if I manage to build social circles with the younger college students, my odds of finding someone there will be slim.

I'm honestly lonely. I've been so wrapped up in work and preparing for college that I have virtually no social life, and miss having a significant other. I'd love to have someone to share this experience with, someone to talk about all of it with. I've never had a hard time finding women, just a hard time finding the *right* women, and what I want now I know is a niche that's hard to find.

Back when I did college before, we had what we called "star parties," where we'd get together with a bunch of telescopes, but of course that's late at night, so socializing there isn't really feasible. There were study groups, but again nearly everyone in it was men. Looked at the local Meetup groups, none locally for anything to do with science.

I have a couple dating profiles, but with how picky I am in what I'm looking for, typical dating sites are impractical for me.

If anyone has any suggestions of ways to find social circles for people interested in sciences (really just about any of it, including psychology), and with some people that would be my age range as well, it would be greatly appreciated. I've been so socially isolated that I'm having a hard time staving off depression.

 

[nuuskur]

I would firstly ask if it's necessary for your new friends to be fellow students. It wouldn't be a bad thing sure, but you are much older than (most of) them, so it stands to reason you wouldn't connect with them nor they with you.

You said you don't have problems finding people - so socialise and let the chips fall where they may.

 

[Ascendant0]

I would firstly ask if it's necessary for your new friends to be fellow students. It wouldn't be a bad thing sure, but you are much older than (most of) them, so it stands to reason you wouldn't connect with them nor they with you.

You said you don't have problems finding people - so socialise and let the chips fall where they may.

Well, I am hoping to click with at least some of them for study groups at times when needed if not anything else. But yea, I'm thinking connecting with most of them would be a challenge.

As far as socializing, maybe I didn't word that well. I don't have a hard time finding women to date. Socializing is much different. I started building up a social circle before covid, then that died. Then I was focused on work and family, then we split up. Since then, I've been focused on school prep, work, and my kids.

I've looked for Meetups near me, but I can't find anything particularly interesting. There's a gaming group that sounded fun, but it's all young guys in their early 20s. I felt awkward, like I was the parent supervising play time, lol.

 

[Vanadium 50]

Are you looking to meet women or to pick up women? They are not synonyms.

 

[robphy]

Maybe there’s one near you:
http://cafescientifique.org/

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Café_Scientifique

 

[docnet]

Is this thread really happening?

 

[erobz]

Are you looking to meet women or to pick up women? They are not synonyms.

I think it’s the latter! Multiple of them! I can see immediately why they might be in the situation they are in…

 

[yungman]

Good luck if you want to confined in the science circle.

I can only tell you how I met my wife of almost 40yrs. I didn't know I was short 2 units to get my degree after years left school, never used my degree in Chemistry. It's just 2 units of electives.

So I went to City College to take 2 dance classes, one modern dance that you don't pick up anyone.

The second one is just BALLROOM DANCE. That's really a good place and safer than a bar or disco. People are older than college students, they even had like 50yrs old people there. I went out with 4 girls before I met my wife. Married since 1986, still happily married.

Check it out. But if you insist one that is into science, that might be tougher.

 

[martinbn]

Read Feynmann, not just his physics texts.

 

[pines-demon]

Are you looking to meet women or to pick up women? They are not synonyms.

https://www.mobilitypluscolorado.com/blog/how-to-lift-disabled-person-off-floor

 

[pinball1970]

If anyone has any suggestions of ways to find social circles for people interested in sciences (really just about any of it, including psychology), and with some people that would be my age range as well, it would be greatly appreciated. I've been so socially isolated that I'm having a hard time staving off depression.

What country are you in? That would help.

They still have clubs at Unis right? Granted you probably would not fit in a freshers week but you can find out what going on from the students union. They may have a mature students society?

If you are doing physics then I recommend something artsy, music. Polar opposites to keep your options open.

Sports too? You like runnin/swimming? Very unisex and relatively safe. Care you if are thinking about competitive sports, a very high level at some University not just a run around.

 

[yungman]

Actually I think it's a lot more interesting to have a partner with different interest and experties. It would be too boring if both are into science, too one dimension. My wife was into real estate, had a real estate license. I learn so much from her, I really got into real estate. Electronics and real estate are two of my main passions.

We started investing in houses, bought the first one, then bought the second one and rented out the first one and we bought more. I became so into it I predicted the big crash of 2008 as early as 2003 and start selling at the high price and invest in places not yet discovered. I earn money from the crash. That's the reason I can retire in 2005 and living happily. My wife is very good in accounting and book keeping, I am lousy at that, she literally in charge of all the rental stuffs. I go by instinct, creative, but everything else can go to hell!!! She pick up where I am bad in.

There's more than just science in life.

These are two pictures one from 84 and the lower one from last year with our grand daughter that is going to UC Merced next month. 40yrs and still going strong