Men: How Would You React to Being Contacted Out of the Blue?

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In summary, the woman would be flattered if contacted out of the blue by a man that she found interesting, but would be creeped out if the man knew too much about her. If the man is a widely known public figure, the woman would probably be more creeped out.

How would you feel about a woman e-mailing you with no prior contact?

  • She must be crazy

    Votes: 10 18.5%

  • I would be flattered

    Votes: 21 38.9%

  • Depends on what she looks like

    Votes: 11 20.4%

  • Depends on her personality

    Votes: 12 22.2%
  • Total voters
    54
  • #36
If he ever finds this thread, he might think you're creepy...

Maybe I should send him the link...
 
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  • #37
Evo said:
I am very likeable, I keep telling my best friend that and he doesn't believe me.

:cry:

HEY---until you find out --you're living in a fantasy world!



...(just like those write/believe in MWI)

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(wait...isn't that what he writes about?)
 
  • #38
jim mcnamara said:
Hmm. I find that hard to believe. Maybe you're trying to use that as an explanation for something else. Dunno. Duzzentmatter.
I was always an odd child, I wouldn't play with other children because they were too immature, I would make slides for my microscope and read anything I could get my hands on. I had an insatiable thirst for knowledge.

Because I've pretty much kill-filtered the whole wide world, I've never gotten email like that. However, I'm with Astronuc - I'd be uncomfortable and slightly flattered, I guess, since I'm probably close to the oldest fart on PF. :rickety bones:
I'm older than dirt. So, if I were to send you an unsolicited PM, it would make you uncomfortable? Oh wait, I'm not a complete stranger to you.

NeoDevin said:
If he ever finds this thread, he might think you're creepy...

Maybe I should send him the link...
:devil: I can ban you, you know...

And this thread isn't creepy. :rolleyes:
 
  • #39
Evo said:
And this thread isn't creepy. :rolleyes:

yeah, you're right there...




(I can find creepier ones)

edit: (forgot the 'I' in 'creeper')
 
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  • #40
rewebster said:
HEY---until you find out --you're living in a fantasy world!



...(just like those write/believe in MWI)

-------------------

(wait...isn't that what he writes about?)
Yep, however, the first time I saw him was in a documentary about Mallett's time travel theory.
 
  • #41
rewebster said:
yeah, you're right there...




(I can find creeper ones)
Hey a thread about social interaction in today's electronically connected world is...nevermind.
 
  • #42
Evo said:
Hey a thread about social interaction in today's electronically connected world is...nevermind.

OK...now, use that 'sense of humor' with him in your first email
 
  • #43
You know, he's clearly a public figure, it is trivial to come up with a premise for contacting him to discuss something in his works. That's not creepy and will surely be welcomed. After he's gotten to know you, then you can work in the fascinating and handsome part.
 
  • #44
Evo said:
I'm older than dirt.
No, you're not.

Even if I was single, I'd be uncomfortable with any woman contacting me by email with the emphasis on me being 'hot', 'cute', 'attractive', 'handsome', or whatever. In fact, if a strange woman contacted me becasue she thought I was hot, it would turn me off right away.

If a strange woman contacted me about work or anything I wrote and wanted to discuss some aspect of the work or writing, then I'd be interested in a discussion. And assuming I was single and had no other interested, I might be interested in a closer relationship, but the would depend on a lot of factors.
 
  • #45
DaveC426913 said:
You know, he's clearly a public figure, it is trivial to come up with a premise for contacting him to discuss something in his works. That's not creepy and will surely be welcomed. After he's gotten to know you, then you can work in the fascinating and handsome part.
Exactly.
 
  • #46
DaveC426913 said:
You know, he's clearly a public figure, it is trivial to come up with a premise for contacting him to discuss something in his works. That's not creepy and will surely be welcomed. After he's gotten to know you, then you can work in the fascinating and handsome part.
Discuss his work? I can barely understand on the most basic level what he does. I find it very interesting but I don't pretend to be able to grasp it. Quantum computing is just mind blowing.

So, considering that I am intellectually at slug level compared to him, what would you suggest? Remember, I'm a very likeable slug.
 
  • #47
I would suggest sneaking into his bedroom, and hide naked in his bed (assuming of course, there isn't someone already there waiting for him)
 
  • #48
NeoDevin said:
I would suggest sneaking into his bedroom, and hide naked in his bed (assuming of course, there isn't someone already there waiting for him)

what man (he) couldn't resist



(hopefully the other 'someone' isn't a man)
 
  • #49
Sounds like someone has a major crush. How inconvenient. Evo and hotguy sitting in a tree, K-I-S-S-I-N-G! :biggrin:
 
  • #50
NeoDevin said:
I would suggest sneaking into his bedroom, and hide naked in his bed (assuming of course, there isn't someone already there waiting for him)
So, this would assure him that I am less crazy than if I e-mailed him?
 
  • #51
No, but it might get his attention better...
 
  • #52
Thrice said:
Sounds like someone has a major crush.
Pathetic, isn't it? I blame it on the fact that I am delirious from pain.
 
  • #53
HEY--theoritician, I mean Kung Pao, wait... Evo...

just emailed him...you can carry on a conversation for weeks/months (from what I've seen)--before he finds out about the 'real' you (and he still may chat)
 
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  • #54
rewebster said:
just emailed him...you can carry on a conversation for weeks/months (from what I've seen)--before he finds out about the 'real' you (and he still may chat)
You didn't? I can delete everything. :devil:
 
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  • #55
(well, I didn't---but, did it raise your endorphin levels up?)

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(I won't have to----he'll do a 'search' for his 'name', see 'physicsforum', and open up the thread)

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(he's probably 'registering' as we speak)
 
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  • #56
rewebster said:
(well, I didn't---but, did it raise your endorphin levels up?)
I'll tell you after I stop hyperventilating.
 
  • #57
rewebster said:
(I won't have to----he'll do a 'search' for his 'name', see 'physicsforum', and open up the thread)
Nope, I checked and he has so much written about him that PF posts about him don't show up for several pages. :approve: My secret crush will remain secret. Heaven forbid he ever sees this. :redface:

This reminds me of years ago when I was on CU Seeme and I found out that an entire webpage had been dedicated to me. It was full of screen caps of me. There were some poems dedicated to me that other people had posted on CU that this person added to the site. It was a bit weird, but quite a compliment.
 
  • #58
shoot--evo---I REALLY, really don't know how long you've been drooling over this guy--but you must have mentioned him in other threads--so... IF he saw those 'other threads'---he'll see this one too.

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OK---MEN OF THE FORUM!---when was the last time that evo admitted to hyperventilating?
 
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  • #59
Evo said:
Nope, I checked and he has so much written about him that PF posts about him don't show up for several pages. :approve: My secret crush will remain secret. Heaven forbid he ever sees this. :redface:

This reminds me of years ago when I was on CU Seeme and I found out that an entire webpage had been dedicated to me. It was full of screen caps of me. There were some poems dedicated to me that other people had posted on CU that this person added to the site. It was a bit weird, but quite a compliment.

Tell him that you're doing a research on how would handsome and fascinating guys feel about a woman who contact them out of the blue...and now you want to have his idea as well!:-p
 
  • #60
Evo said:
Nope, I checked and he has so much written about him that PF posts about him don't show up for several pages. :approve: My secret crush will remain secret. Heaven forbid he ever sees this. :redface:
Oh it's only a matter of time before one of us decides to act .. precipitously. It took me only a few minutes to find his name. Luckily I happen to find the situation quite hilarious as it is (for now).

(as it's said in chess, the threat is more powerful than the execution :biggrin:)
 
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  • #61
rewebster said:
shoot--evo---I REALLY, really don't know how long you've been drooling over this guy--but you must have mentioned him in other threads--so... IF he saw those 'other threads'---he'll see this one too.
I haven't seen any threads where I've mentioned his name. :rolleyes:
 
  • #62
Lisa! said:
Tell him that you're doing a research on how would handsome and fascinating guys feel about a woman who contact them out of the blue...and now you want to have his idea as well!:-p
Oh, that's a GREAT idea, it's research!

Lisa!, you're a genius! :approve:
 
  • #63
well, IF you DO go back in and wipe his (last) name off of ALL your threads...let's see... what 'level' would that be on the 'Kung Pao' scale?
 
  • #64
rewebster said:
OK---MEN OF THE FORUM!---when was the last time that evo admitted to hyperventilating?
This is the first time ever, AFAIK.
 
  • #65
Thrice said:
Oh it's only a matter of time before one of us decides to act .. precipitously. It took me only a few minutes to find his name. Luckily I happen to find the situation quite hilarious as it is (for now).
I'm glad my predicament brings you joy. :cry:

<just kidding> :biggrin:
 
  • #66
Lisa! said:
Tell him that you're doing a research on how would handsome and fascinating guys feel about a woman who contact them out of the blue...and now you want to have his idea as well!:-p

I like that one! :approve:
 
  • #67
Evo said:
Discuss his work? I can barely understand on the most basic level what he does. I find it very interesting but I don't pretend to be able to grasp it. Quantum computing is just mind blowing.

So, considering that I am intellectually at slug level compared to him, what would you suggest? Remember, I'm a very likeable slug.

Oh. Ah. So, less a meeting of the minds, and more a ...

well, I don't have a witty euphamism...

So, you're hot for his bones.

In that case, NeoDevin has your answer.
 
  • #68
I would think that's kind of strange. Not crazy, but strange. I'd be flattered too because whenever someone admires me, guy or girl, I find it flattering.

What my response would be would entirely depend on the context of the e-mail. Also, it's not likely that I would comply because it would feel strange to meet someone that I randomly do not know.

So, I guess it's... flattering + strange.
 
  • #69
DaveC426913 said:
So, you're hot for his bones.
And his mind, I'm NOT that kind of girl!

I had decided to never date again, but several people told me that wasn't good, so instead I have decided to pursue the unobtainable. It's all or nothing.
 
  • #70
Taste a little bit, if you are not ill after an hour it is probably ok to try some more, if
you feel fine the next day gorge yourself.
 

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