Jack21222 said:If you had stayed on this coast, I'd have a room for you in Baltimore. Seattle's so dreary anyway.
G037H3 said:Is probably too much to hope for... =(
Jasongreat said:Hope doesn't get things done. There is a room for rent in west seattle, http://classifieds.thestranger.com/seattle/Results?section=oid%3A8" , might be too costly without getting the bank problem fixed though.
http://www.e-roommate.com/"is a roomate finding service which might have something.
Most newspapers and entertainment magazines have a room rental section. Another option would be to try and find a caretaker position at an apartment complex, they might give you a room as part of your pay.
G037H3 said:Thank you for the links. And ads from the Stranger are probably better than a randomly picked source, since I'm trans.
Really, the main thing is whether or not I can get the money order $ into my account by Dec. 3rd. If I can't, I am homeless. If I can, I just have to rush to get a job and find a place to stay after Jan 4th.
The money order is THE thing. Tomorrow, I'm going to give the bank hell about it.
My friend told me it is in my best interest to go to sleep now, because I'm bleeding out in all directions because of my fear and such.
Jasongreat said:Why not get out now, if the bank problem gets resolved? It doesn't sound like you like where you are at, it doesn't sound like your roomates like you where you are at and are planning on screwing you over, lastly you don't have a contract that is forcing you to stay where you are at. If I were you, I would be leaving asap. I would not put it off hopefully for another month, I say hopefully because even if you do pay, they might evict you anyways in which case you would be out the rent money, and although you could possibly have legal recourse, it wouldn't happen overnight and when you force your way back in you will most likely be treated even worse by your roomates than you are now. Get out as fast as you can, even if you have to find a weekly room rental in a dive motel.
Math Is Hard said:I agree about getting out now if there is any way possible. The person you rent from could really screw you over. You could hand over the rent, and still get evicted and have the locks changed on you. Even if you come back with the cops and a copy of the money order, the landlord could claim it was money you owed from a month or two before, and that you are behind on rent. They could make up all sorts of lies. It's a precarious situation with no receipts for the cash transactions.
raam86 said:Have you given an thought to couch surfing? http://www.couchsurfing.org/ This will surely act as an emergency 'chute if you are evicted. I would take this even further seeing you have no job, no money and nothing that ties you to one place. Take a tour across America with couch surfing on the cheap. If you haven't read "On the road" then do and then you will surely be convinced. Get rid of your belongings, you don't need them take this opportunity and make the best out of it. I am almost jealous. <3
raam86 said:You don't have to travel. You can a rent storage for $1 a day in some places and just couch surf in your region until you settle down. there are 379 couch surfers in Seattle alone. It means FREE or very close to free places to sleep.
lisab said:In Washington State (not sure about other places), there's an organization that is a clearing house for services such as housing, job training, food, etc.
Just dial 211.
G037H3 said:* had to deal with the person I'm renting my room from telling me about their intention to do the three day eviction notice; I handled it with extreme self-control
cristo said:On what grounds is she trying to kick you out? Unless you've broken a term of your contract, then the notice period will be that stated in your contract.
Still, it sounds like you've made some good progress from your first post, and I would certainly not advise staying where you are. There are bound to be some rooms to rent that would be happy for you to move in asap, just as a temporary thing.
jarednjames said:Why are you even contemplating paying December rent if you know the landlord wants you out? You're just going to lose your money.
Don't pay December and just go straight looking for a new place.
jarednjames said:But she's going to kick you out anyhow. So why bother? Just get out of there.
G037H3 said:(She's desperate for the $, apparently 48 year old women who abuse pills for over 30 years, and scam the government out of $, aren't exactly great at personal finances)
Perspicacity said:I don't know the laws in your area, but I'm a landlord in NYS and here the law says that if we take ANY money from a renter they can't be evicted for 30 days. So if you can manage evidence of payment for this month then your landlord will have to wait...that is if the law is similar in your area.
You need to try and learn to not let yourself get pushed around, and for goodness' sake you shouldn't be living in the shadows like this. If you have to pay cash for rent, make your landlord write out a receipt. I do it all the time for one of my tenants. Stick up for yourself man, and I think you'll find that if you show you can't be pushed around these thins are much less likely to happen to you.
jarednjames said:Look at the facts. You know she is going to evict you in three days. You know she is 'mad'. You don't know how to defend yourself. There is no reason to pay the rent. Just make some excuse to delay payment and get the hell out of there.
I know it sounds blunt, but I don't do the softly-softly approach.
G037H3 said:I intend on asking for a receipt, the reason given will be for proof of expenditures.
Not let myself be pushed around? I was on the edge of death, and I met my former friend online. They supported me for 8 months in total, and had me fly across the country to where I am now. Of course, my judge of character was better than theirs, but the idea was to get me out here...
But I'm not a ostentatious or assertive person. I've commented elsewhere that I'm a natural D/s slave, etc. o.o I'm one of those freakishly kind people =]
Perspicacity said:You don't need to be a jerk to not be a push over. You also don't need a reason to ask for a receipt. You should ALWAYS get a receipt when you spend your money.
I don't know your whole story, so I can't comment on how you got into the situation—only what you're doing wrong NOW. You can't change the past, but you don't have to keep doing the same thing over and over again.
G037H3 said:I turned 18, had a very small inheritance, lived like a hermit, figured out 'i r slave' and 'i r girl', turned 19, had no $, was suicidal, met 30 year old Canadian genderqueer person on a forum, we talk to each other like crazy, they start supporting me financially ($600 USD/mo for 8 month period, when their job wasn't great pay), we try to find solutions, can't really find any, they decide 'fine, you're moving to Seattle', they find room for me ASAP and buy me a ticket, i fully trust them, take plane from Midwest to Seattle, start living in room in Lynnwood 5 months ago, person is subleasing room to me, they made promises to the Canadian person regarding how they'd treat me, and promised that they'd give me 1 month notice for eviction, Canadian person comes to visit me for 1 week, 1 week after i get to WA, the week with them was the happiest week of my life, then they left me here, ALONE, and i wait for their return above everything else, waiting waiting waiting please come back, or let me be with you, roomie that leases room to me turns out to be a lying druggie, I'm still depressed, so i don't do much, Canadian person says I'm too emotionally needy and has a nervous breakdown, with them gone, the focus of my life is gone, so i spiral into despair and self-loathing, do nothing for a couple of months, decide that programming would be an ideal way to make $, this situation comes up.
Math Is Hard said:Sounds like you didn't want to take control of your life, so you quickly handed the reigns over to someone else.
G037H3 said:Did you miss the part 'i r slave', in a D/s sense?...
jarednjames said:I hate to say self-inflicted, but it really does appear that way.
Perhaps not a deliberate act on your part. Although from reading the above it does seem you didn't try too hard.