What do girls/women look for in men?

[turbo]

but if someone out there is wise, i remark that my only regret in social experiences is that I could have been kinder and more thoughtful of the people I met.

Kids, please listen! This will come back to you years down the road. There are people around you right now that may not be in your crowd, or may not "measure up" to your clique's standards for any number of reasons. They may not be cool or have influence in your neighborhood right now, but eventually you will figure out that they are trying to do their best, and that they are affecting YOUR world, in the process.

Please be kind.

 

[JasonRox]

Most men, I think are just happy to have someone stable in their lives and who they feel good being around.

What?

Yeah, most men have lower standards, but so do most females. I think this relates to the fact that most people seem to have low self-esteem and such. It seems that way because every get insulted and saddened by little things that are meaningless or should have no meaning to.

I put my standards high. I'm a valuable person with integrity. There is no way I will just settle for someone who is simply stable and who I feel good around.

 

[Moonbear]

I put my standards high. I'm a valuable person with integrity. There is no way I will just settle for someone who is simply stable and who I feel good around.

Me too, which is why I'm still single.

 

[JasonRox]

Me too, which is why I'm still single.

I'm not.

Note: Relationship has improved, which is good.

Girls are interested though if I became single.

I'm sure you have a group of guys waiting for you, but those lambs are keeping you busy and distracted.

 

[Moonbear]

I'm sure you have a group of guys waiting for you, but those lambs are keeping you busy and distracted.

I'm still trying to figure out where those guys are hiding. It's a university town with a large hospital, so there have to be single men around who are my age...residents, other young faculty, etc., but nobody seems to have a clue where they go when they aren't working.

In this state, I need those sheep as part of my screening process. Anyone who shows more interest in the sheep than me gets scratched of the eligible list. Considering we have a sheep running around the farm named "Lips," you do have to think about that.

 

[Cyrus]

I'm still trying to figure out where those guys are hiding. It's a university town with a large hospital, so there have to be single men around who are my age...residents, other young faculty, etc., but nobody seems to have a clue where they go when they aren't working.

There all watching scrubs...Zinggggg!

 

[Evo]

Considering we have a sheep running around the farm named "Lips," you do have to think about that.

Lips?

 

[Moonbear]

Lips?

Yep. I'm still trying to find someone who can give the story behind that one, though I might not want to know. All I know is they won't let us use her for experiments and keep her in the breeding/teaching flock.

 

[moose]

I just finished a book about body language that cited studies that mainatained that communication is about 70% dependent on body language and paralanguage* over a mere 30% for the actual words people use.

That's what smileys are for

There all watching scrubs...Zinggggg!

Don't look, no no.

h'oouh

Watch scrubs with them!

 

[JasonRox]

OMG!

You believe what just happened.

I just found out that one of my newer girl friends is a STRIPPER! Like, I can't possibly imagine her doing that.

It's going to be awkward running with her tomorrow. Oh well, that's the way it is. Should be fun.

 

[Math Is Hard]

I'm still trying to figure out where those guys are hiding. It's a university town with a large hospital, so there have to be single men around who are my age...residents, other young faculty, etc., but nobody seems to have a clue where they go when they aren't working.

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/2/2d/Briscoe.02.jpg
Just take a look around, Moonbahr. There's plenty o' quality men in them hills.

 

[moose]

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/2/2d/Briscoe.02.jpg
Just take a look around, Moonbahr. There's plenty o' quality men in them hills.

I wasn't drinking anything, but I still managed to get spit on my monitor

EDIT: JasonRox, isn't it FREEZING in the morning in Ontario?

 

[Pythagorean]

women <3 money and power

 

[Cyrus]

OMG!

You believe what just happened.

I just found out that one of my newer girl friends is a STRIPPER! Like, I can't possibly imagine her doing that.

It's going to be awkward running with her tomorrow. Oh well, that's the way it is. Should be fun.

BAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHA

I put my standards high. I'm a valuable person with integrity. There is no way I will just settle for someone who is simply stable and who I feel good around.

Oh man...you can't make stuff this good up, you just cant!

 

[Pyrrhus]

What girls want? Who cares?, i know what i want

Stop overanalyzing women!, just be (or work on) yourself, whichever fits you .

 

[Astronuc]

Considering we have a sheep running around the farm named "Lips," you do have to think about that.

I don't want to use my imagination with that. Seems like too many lonely men around that place.

 

[kant]

I think all of you are being pc. I don t know about the girls that made their mark onto this thread, but there is not a single male here that don t watch hardcore porn. At least 50% of those are thinking: " does size matter", and 25% of those are thinking "why the hell are people being so pc?".

 

[turbo]

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/2/2d/Briscoe.02.jpg
Just take a look around, Moonbahr. There's plenty o' quality men in them hills.

You're setting pretty tough goals, MIH. Briscoe Darling is a hot property. Maybe one of the slack-jawed boys, though...

 

[Moonbear]

OMG!

You believe what just happened.

I just found out that one of my newer girl friends is a STRIPPER! Like, I can't possibly imagine her doing that.

It's going to be awkward running with her tomorrow. Oh well, that's the way it is. Should be fun.

I think it would only be awkward if you found out because you were at the club where she was stripping and saw her act. Or, well, if now you ARE imagining her doing that.

 

[Volumunox]

How can a man not imagine that once one finds out ? :P
perhaps you could get a free lap dance Jason ? :D

And i think i missed a chapter on the Boy / Man subject

Also why i didn't date in school and i belonged to the "hip cool etc etc" clique but still just hanged out around the Geeks :D
i think i messed up the school popularity system. :P

but all in all i didn't really like being around ppl my own age, also why i then got a job and payed for night courses and later became a teacher in the subject..

i also find it hard to find a nice gal since, well.. i don't drink.. and i don't really like going out to clubs..
its the whole thing about finding out of where the intelligent funny gals hang out that seems to be my problem.

so where does those gals hang out ? :P

 

[Astronuc]

its the whole thing about finding out of where the intelligent funny gals hang out that seems to be my problem.

so where does those gals hang out ? :P

Library? Book stores? It seems that a lot of intelligent women participate in PF. Well, at least that's a start.

 

[Volumunox]

i've never really been into books per say.. :P
(as in never finished other books then my science related books back when i went to school)

so that only leaves
*drives the hand through the hair*
So girls ;)

lol.

 

[JasonRox]

I think it would only be awkward if you found out because you were at the club where she was stripping and saw her act. Or, well, if now you ARE imagining her doing that.

Ok, she lied about the whole thing!

That was a good laugh today though. Honestly, it seemed so true. At the same time I couldn't believe it.

Strange moments.

Now, I can't go see her at her work.

 

[kant]

Library? Book stores? It seems that a lot of intelligent women participate in PF. Well, at least that's a start.

Are perhaps your professors daughters

 

[Volumunox]

you could always encourage her to get a job as a stripper and THEN go see her at work ;)

 

[Volumunox]

Are perhaps your professors daughters

you mean... they have a life outside school ? thought they always stayed at school.. hmm.. :P

I don't go to school anymore... have a job, and teach others.. what knowledge I'm missing I'm extrating from the my surroundings..
Which has worked quite well..

I like physics, math etc so its enjoyable to learn it outside a classroom aswell

 

[moose]

Ok, she lied about the whole thing!

That was a good laugh today though. Honestly, it seemed so true. At the same time I couldn't believe it.

Strange moments.

Now, I can't go see her at her work.

That's awesome

You realize that now you have to "get back" at her

 

[kant]

you mean... they have a life outside school ? thought they always stayed at school.. hmm.. :P

I don't go to school anymore... have a job, and teach others.. what knowledge I'm missing I'm extrating from the my surroundings..
Which has worked quite well..

I like physics, math etc so its enjoyable to learn it outside a classroom aswell

Well, there is always the dating sites. Just make sure you put out "I am hung as hell" on the profile. Girls would flock to you.

 

[JasonRox]

That's awesome

You realize that now you have to "get back" at her

I'll dress up as a stripper for Halloween tomorrow night.

 

[Math Is Hard]

I'll dress up as a stripper for Halloween tomorrow night.

If you do, please post some pics!

 

[Volumunox]

Well, there is always the dating sites. Just make sure you put out "I am hung as hell" on the profile. Girls would flock to you.

Well i have always been told to tell the truth so why not

 

[twisting_edge]

What do girls/women look for in men?

You know, some time ago I used to think you could simply ask them and take them at their word. But as every guy knows, you can't. I had a further thought on that matter recently. (Note: I'm not referring to anyone on this forum, but more generally.)

When you ask, what you hear back is not what she is looking for, but those features either lacking or too present in the men she has associated with in the past. You're really hearing a list of what she does not look for, at least, not the people she eventually associates with.

For example, if she has a thing for bumbling idiots (brings out the mothering instinct in some), she'll eventually realize it can annoy her at times, and she'll say she would like someone a bit more adroit. But she's much more likely revert to type and date another bumbling idiot.

Cute theory, isn't it? It certainly explains all the confusion on the matter. If you listen to women talk among themselves, they even say the same thing, practically all the time, "Why do I keep winding up with such ____ guys?"

Women are probably less prone to this than girls, but it certainly seems to take more than a lifetime for some to make that transition.

P.S.: I'm sure someone must have come across this idea before, it can't be original. I've probably even read it somewhere myself. But the connection only just dawned on me recently. I guess it just took a long, long time for the reality to sink in. It is probably less that I am more observant than anyone else, and more that I am less.

 

[JasonRox]

If you do, please post some pics!

Haha! Boy, would that ever be a good avatar.

 

[twisting_edge]

I've never done this, but I think webcam conversations would convey body language and paralanguage better than any means other than being in the person's actual presence.

Here's yet another theory (this one not recent, and not common).

A webcam conversation may actually be even more revealing than meeting in person (get yr mind out of the gutter). I know on-line text-based conferencing can work that way. The reason is pretty simple: there is almost no face-to-face situation in which two complete strangers can meet while both of them are on their own home turf. People behave very differently in their own houses, or where they feel completely secure.

I did manage to come up with a real-world analogy when I first came up with that particular theory, but only one: a freshman dorm.

The parallels are quite striking.

 

[mathwonk]

this may be hard for young kids to understand and act on, but in my limited experience, almost all social interactions are initiated by women. all a man has to do is notice which women are interested in him and respond to them.

I used to marvel at the insecure guys who were so convinced that they could not get a date, that they ignored the obvious signs from attractive women who were trying to get them to notice them.


A man who can actually cause an uninterested woman to begin to notice him is very unusual, and probably wasting his time and effort on the wrong woman.

ladies, is this true?